I finished the Book of Job in my Bible reading plan this morning. I usually think of Job as a classic story of suffering and restoration. This time I also noticed another theme. The bulk of the Book of Job is speeches from Job, his friends, and God. Through it all we get some important reminders about the weight of our words.
At first, when Job experienced tragedy, he responded with worship. But when the weight of his loss fully hit him he began to say things he’d later regret. He cursed the day of his birth and declared his life to have no hope. He did have moments where faith broke through some of his speeches, but for the most part his words were dictated by his pain. This is human of course, and not all that unexpected, but it’s still a mistake. Our emotions during seasons of suffering and confusion can throw our perspective out of whack. These are good times to think carefully and clearly before we speak so our words don’t inadvertently add to our pain.
Secondly, Job’s “friends” are a classic illustration on how not to speak to someone who is hurting. Much of what they say is factual, and you can actually preach some pretty great sermons out of their speeches if you take verses out of context. But the problem was that their words lacked grace. They were good at saying the right thing at the wrong time and in the wrong way. It’s not helpful to theologically pick apart someone’s words when they’re in deep pain. At one point Job even cries out in desperation saying, “How long will you torment me and break me in pieces with your words (Job 19.2)?” When a friend is deeply hurting, that’s the time to simply be present, not to present a sermon.
By the end of the book I was so tired of hearing these guys speak, and relieved to finally hear God’s words break through the noise. Chapters 38 and 39, when God speaks, are two of my favorite chapters in the Bible. His list of rhetorical questions to Job immediately snap everything back into perspective. His purposes and greatness are too great to fathom. How could any of us ever hope to pin Him down or figure Him out?
By the time God finishes his speech, Job says what should have been said a long time ago.
Then Job answered the Lord and said: “Behold, I am of small account; what shall I answer you? I lay my hand on my mouth. I have spoken once, and I will not answer; twice, but I will proceed no further. (Job 40.3-5).”
Remember, words have tremendous weight and power–especially when suffering is involved. Here are a few takeaways from the story of Job.
- If you are in a season of deep pain, add faith to your lips as a filter. Be careful that pain prompted words don’t increase your suffering.
- If you have a friend who is suffering, don’t spend time with them sermonizing or criticizing. Instead, major on listening, encouragement, prayer and presence.
- If you fall into either of these categories, listen carefully for what God is saying. It may be a whisper, but it will almost certainly provide much needed perspective.